The first question you need to answer for yourself is, how do you define the word “success” when you think of marriage? Do you have it down? Now ask your future spouse, “What does a successful marriage look like to you?” Are your answers the same? They might be close which is a great start. My husband and I will celebrate our 16th year of marriage next March.
When asked to come up with my top 5 secrets they came easily but as they say, easier said than done.
1.) Money – Get on the same page! How did your family treat money growing up? Financial Peace University put our marriage on track with our finances.
2.) Faith – Have a common belief system. Regardless of which religion just be sure you both agree.
3.) United Front – When it comes to disagreements with your children or family present yourselves as a united front. The kids can smell fear and weakness. They will try to divide and conquer when they hear the word “no” from one parent.
4.) Intimacy – Prepare for the ebb and flow of life because it can get in the way of intimacy. You need to have intimate moments of sexual and non sexual time together.
5.) Common core values – You might not agree on what your going to eat for dinner but you need to agree on your core values.
As a fun addition I asked my husband what his top 5 would be.
1.) Have fun together.
2.) Be kind.
3.) Travel together.
4.) Good communication.
5.) Have common goals.
There you have it! Do you have anything to add to the list? Leave them in the comments.
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